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Had my first appointment with a psychologist today. Being the first time I saw her we didn’t really talk about much more than my life history. But the advice that she did give me seemed to hit a nerve. I’ve paraphrased what she said below.
When your trying to make yourself do something you don’t want to do, you’re going to feel
You have to keep fighting those feelings. You aren’t going to feel motivated. You’ll have zero motivation. You have to tell yourself that you’ve made a commitment to doing this and that you’ll see it through.
It’s going to be harder for you, so you’re going to have to work harder- but when you succeed it’s going to really be an achievement, and really mean something.
It would be nice if we could go through life without those feelings (anger/frustration), but life isn’t like that.
Shortly after this she wrote “Life is suffering” on her whiteboard.
I’ve seen a few counsellors before, and the advice they’ve always given me- has always made sense, but hasn’t really made an impact. There’s never been any light bulb moment, where I have some sort of major realisation. But this time it felt like there was.
I think it was two things. First that she acknowledged just how angry and frustrated I do feel whenever I try to force myself to stay on task. And second that you don’t need to be feeling motivated in order to get things done.